You don’t have to be on any dating apps to know that they can be a nightmare.
Apps like Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge are mainly based on physical appearance (even though we don’t like to admit it) because the first thing you see is a picture that the person wants you to see. Unlike meeting someone IRL, you have total control over what you look like when someone sees you for the first time on an app. Yeah, you decide what to wear and how to do your hair and makeup in public and for dates, but we all know that the cutest guys come along the one time you decide to run errands barefaced and in sweatpants.
This is further proof that we should be looking for more in relationships like mutual values and a shared sense of humor. Luckily for us, a new dating app called Smile is all about matching with people who share your sense of humor.
Enter the Smile App
Smile is a dating app that matches people based on a mutual sense of humor. Developed by software engineer and Boston College graduate Melissa Mullen, the app prioritizes a shared sense of humor over looks.
25-year-old Mullen got the idea to create the app when she realized that her most successful relationships were with guys who shared her sense of humor. She said, "If you're laughing a lot on the first date, that's usually a good sign. Later on ... When life gets hard, it's helpful in a relationship if you're able to laugh through the tough time."
I couldn't agree more because my parents, who have been together for over 30 years, have the same sense of humor and still make each other laugh. If that isn’t #couplegoals, I don’t know what is.
Though you can see the pictures of your matches, you have to wait after talking for a bit to see what they look like. With the shallowness of swiping on Tinder or Bumble out the door, on Smile, you’ll find a connection based on something more than looks. It’s kind of like Love Is Blind IRL, but without the unnecessary drama and pressure to get engaged. Though the app is new, it has already gotten plenty of press from celebrities like Drew Barrymore, and who doesn’t love America's sweetheart?
So how does the app work? An algorithm matches you with people with a similar sense of humor through rating funny posts on social media. If you're going to spend your time on an app searching for a potential husband, this seems like the most entertaining way to do it. With more and more women (and men) feeling burned out by the traditional "swiping" apps for dating, we love this creative approach to digging beneath the surface to find us a genuine, deep connection.
Think about it: can you imagine spending the rest of your life with someone who doesn’t make you laugh or who doesn't laugh when you make a joke? Believe it or not, a mutual sense of humor can be an early sign of success in a relationship.
Why a Shared Sense of Humor Is Important in a Relationship
According to Jeffrey Hall, Ph.D., a communications professor at the University of Kansas and a Smile App advisor, couples with a mutual sense of humor are more likely to have long-term success. He writes, “Sharing humor and laughing together are great indicators of both short-term attraction and long-term satisfaction.”
Hall also told Insider, "Say you and your partner share a quirky sense of humor, but romantic comedies or sit-coms do nothing for either of you... It's not that any style or a sense of humor is any better or worse. What matters is that you both see quirky humor as hysterical. If you share a sense of what's funny, it affirms you and affirms your relationship through laughter."
If you share a sense of what's funny, it affirms you and affirms your relationship through laughter.
Experts agree with Hall. Family and relationship therapist, Dr. Fran Walfish, says, "A shared mutual sense of humor is very important to me and should be important in a relationship. It is part of the glue that bonds partners together as a couple. Humor can be used to lighten a moment of conflict and help loosen someone [up] when they are stuck in their own point of view."
If the research isn’t enough to convince you that having a similar sense of humor is important in a long-term relationship, then take a moment to think of your oldest friends. I don’t know about you, but I share a very similar sense of humor to all of my long-term friends. I have friends who I’ve known for over a decade whom I can communicate with solely through memes, and if friendship is the perfect foundation for a long-term relationship, shouldn’t a mutual sense of humor also be essential?
Think of celebrity couples with a similar sense of humor like Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds. They’re the most beloved couple in Hollywood, and one of the main reasons behind it is that they’re so funny together. If it can work for them, it should work for you.
Research shows that couples who share a similar sense of humor are more likely to be successful, so why aren’t we prioritizing this when searching for a potential mate on dating apps? Smile is looking to change that, and it’s currently available to download on the Apple App Store and Google Play Store.
So, to our single ladies out there searching for a quality husband with a sense of humor, we say why not give it a try? You may just get matched with the man of your dreams.
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