Ask Evie: The Guy I Like Is Always Watching And Liking My Stories. Should I Make A Move?

READER’S QUESTION: "Dear Evie, The guy I like is always viewing my stories and liking them. Should I just go ahead and make a move, or should I wait for him to do it?"

EVIE’S ADVICE: Ah, dating in the social media age. What a confusing time for so many of us. Rather than the guy we like just walking up to us and asking us out on a date in person, we have to go around checking every last social media account we have, combing through countless names just to see if he’s liked or viewed our content – and all for the possibility that he might be into us. It’s so unnecessarily complicated. In a perfect world, we’d say that this guy should just work up the courage to make a move and ask you out. After all, if he’s actively liking your Stories rather than just thinking he’s viewing them in private, he’s definitely hoping that you notice him too. 

However, he may feel like the 53% of single men who avoid interacting with women out of fear that they’ll be seen as “creepy.” And who can blame them in a world where half-naked women are filming themselves at the gym, hoping that some poor schmuck’s eyes will glaze over so she can blast him on her TikTok for the world to criticize? He may be among the men who prefer to drop subtle hints that he’s into you (in this case, via liking your Instagram Stories) without making too bold of a move in case you don’t feel the same. 

If you’re sure that you’re into him and he’s single, try "dropping the hanky" by sharing a photo from a local restaurant of something you want to try and put "Who's going with me?!" on your story. This actually worked for one of our Evie Editors in getting him to respond and ask her out. Another tactic that has worked among us Evie girls? If you know he likes a certain band, you could put one of their songs as the background on a Story or you jamming out to it in your car. This will give him the opportunity to respond rather than just “liking” your Story because he may feel he has an opening to a genuine conversation without putting all of his cards on the table at once. 

You’re probably already viewing his Stories and liking them as well (which we’re sure he’s taken note of), so if you carry out these two tricks and he doesn’t make a move, it’s probably safe to assume that he’s pursuing someone else and doesn’t want to get in trouble for actually messaging you (as this would leave evidence rather than simply viewing/liking your Stories). He could be using you as a sort of “back-up,” or he may also be breadcrumbing other girls like this for entertainment and a little ego boost without the intention of making any sort of commitment. In that case, it may be best to let go of the crush, stop engaging with his social media, and move on to someone who won’t hesitate to make his feelings known. 

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