25 Ideas To Spark Conversation On A Dating App

You’ve probably been there, turning your brain upside down and backward trying to figure out how to spark an interesting conversation with an attractive match on your newly downloaded dating app.

By Jenna Cullman2 min read
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If you’re using an app like Bumble, where it’s set up so the girls make the first move, you may be thinking, “What do I say? I’m not used to initiating!” How can you start the conversation on the right foot and avoid the boring “Hey!” or “What are you doing?” 

Dating has grown increasingly difficult as people interact with each other less. With many having chosen to work at home, it can be difficult to meet worthy, eligible bachelors nearby. But with dating apps, it opens the door to more opportunities to meet your Prince Charming and be swept off your feet. Here are some ideas to initiate an interesting conversation that could end with you going on a date this weekend. 

Not-So-Cheesy One-Liners 

Starting out a conversation with a witty one-liner will set you off on the right foot; maybe you’ll even make him chuckle at his phone.

  • “My parents told me not to talk to strangers. So, how about we be friends?” This will show him that you’re witty and that you want to really get to know him as a person, not just romantically.

  • “Hello, this is me making the first move. Your turn.” This lets him know what’s up and shows that you know what you want.

  • “Hey, stranger. Stop being a stranger.” This should entice his masculinity to pursue you. 

  • “Can I interest you in some mediocre conversation?” Shedding light on an all-too-common issue with online dating (mediocre conversation) will make him laugh and break the awkwardness.

Conversation Starters

While saying the first thing that pops into your head may work, it’s better to have somewhat of a game plan to go on. The first thing you say sets the tone for the rest of the conversation. What better way than to start with a question? Start with some intriguing questions to create instant chemistry and help you curate your list of important facts about this possible future suitor. Here are some questions you could start with:

  1. If you could only listen to one musician for the rest of your life, who would it be?

  2. What’s the best concert you’ve ever been to?

  3. If you got stuck on an island and could only have one item, what would it be? 

  4. Who did you look up to the most growing up?

  5. What was your favorite movie when you were a kid?

  6. What is the worst thing someone could do on a date with you?

  7. What would you do if you were invisible for a day?

  8. Who’s your favorite superhero?

  9. If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you go?

  10. What is your favorite restaurant in the area?

  11. What did you want to be growing up?

  12. What is a skill you wish you had?

  13. What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done?

  14. What’s your spirit animal?

  15. What is your all-time favorite movie or book?

  16. What qualities do you look for in the people you date?

  17. If you could stop time, what would you do?

  18. Who are three of the most important people in your life?

  19. Are you an introvert or an extrovert?

  20. If you could pursue any career, what would you choose to do?

  21. If you could invite any three people, living or dead, to dinner, who would you invite and why?

  22. Have you ever taken a personality quiz? What was your result?

  23. What’s the number one quality you think is essential to a friendship (loyalty, honesty, common interests, etc.)? 

  24. Would you rather take a vacation to the mountains or to the beach?

  25. What do you think is the most important subject people should study in high school?

Closing Thoughts 

Nothing is worse than a dry conversation and a lack of humor. Being lighthearted, open, and playful always makes any interaction, in person or through an app, more exciting and more likely to connect. With a little creativity and humor, you will not only have more intriguing conversations, but also come to know your matches that much better. 

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