What “Selling Sunset” Star Chrishell Stause Can Teach Us About Dating

By Regan Monnin··  5 min read
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Drama has followed Chrishell Stause on all seasons of “Selling Sunset.” From getting divorced in the third season to dating her boss in the (upcoming) fifth season to feuding with Christine Quinn in all seasons, Chrishell’s storylines have made for some juicy and dramatic television.

But, while Chrishell has dealt with heartbreak, she’s stayed relentlessly positive through it all. Even Christine stands to learn a thing or two from Chrishell about romantic relationships.

Never Give Up on Love

Chrishell has been through the wringer with her romantic relationships. She’s endured both a broken engagement and a divorce in the public eye. According to Chrishell, the divorce came completely out of the blue. Her ex-husband notified her of their divorce filing via text. 

Since the divorce in 2019, Chrishell has also had two different romantic relationships crash and burn in the public eye including one with her boss and Selling Sunset co-star, Jason Oppenheim.

With the rollercoaster of a love life like Chrishell’s, you couldn’t blame her if she had written off romance forever. 

Chrishell has chosen to believe that love and marriage are still worthwhile and good pursuits.

But, Chrishell has taken the opposite approach, staying open to romance and love as it comes. In her statement after her breakup with Jason, Chrishell wrote, “I very much hope to one day have a family and the decisions I make at this point are with that goal in mind.”

Never giving up on love is crucial to success in life. That doesn’t mean you need a man to complete you, far from it. But, people who give up on finding love in the world often become bitter and angry people. With all that she’s been through, Chrishell could be. No one would blame her for that. But, instead, she’s chosen to believe that love and marriage are still worthwhile and good pursuits.

Don’t Settle 

While Chrishell is choosing to be open to love, that doesn’t mean she’s settling in her romantic relationships. 

According to both Chrishell and Jason, their relationship was perfect. They were best friends, and both say they truly loved each other. So why did they go their separate ways? 

Chrishell wants children. Jason does not. 

In her statement about the breakup, Chrishell wrote, “Men have the luxury of time that women don’t, and that’s just the way it goes.” While she could have settled for a good life with a good man sans children, Chrishell instead chose not to settle, waiting for the right man with whom to have a family. 

Some could say she’s too picky. Others could argue she’s too old for that and should settle for whatever relationship she can get. 

All relationships take compromise. But compromise is different than settling.

But settling in your romantic relationship is never the way to go. Just look at what Chrishell said about her ex-husband after he filed for divorce: "I had a plan, but then I met him. And I loved him so much that I changed my plan for him. So, it just makes me think then, maybe there is a bigger plan for me." 

Never settle for what you want in a relationship whether it concerns children, faith, or any number of things. All relationships take compromise. But compromise is different than settling. While compromise is an agreed-upon middle ground between two people, settling rejects the standards that you have for your romantic partner, yourself, or your life. These standards are important for making sure you are equally yoked with your spouse.

If you know that something is a non-negotiable for you, treat it as such. Be as upfront about it as possible. You know yourself best and what you want your life to look like. Never settle in a romantic relationship, that just leads to heartbreak down the road. 

Become an Interesting Person

While Chrishell says she’s hoping to start a family one day, she sure isn’t waiting around for it to happen. She’s currently working as a real estate agent in Los Angeles, selling million-dollar homes to movie stars and professional athletes. She competed on Dancing with the Stars in 2020, taking eighth place. She is also one of the main stars of Selling Sunset, as well as a social media influencer with 3M followers. 

Do the things that make you happy. Develop hobbies. Discover your passions. 

Chrishell is now making her own way and becoming the best version of herself. That’s a great thing to do whether you’re dating, engaged, or married. But, as you work to find Mr. Right, realize that a lot of finding him is becoming the best possible version of yourself. Do the things that make you happy. Develop hobbies. Discover your passions. Become a well-rounded woman. 

When you elevate yourself to a higher level, you attract those who are doing the same thing. 

Plus, becoming the best version of yourself is fun. It’s not always easy, but it’s rewarding in so many ways. But don’t take my word for it, take Chrishell’s: "You don't know how long you're going to be here. You're not promised anything, so if this year has taught me anything, it's just – even if it scares you, just say yes, dress up, show up, get out there."

Closing Thoughts

Chrishell’s love life has been riddled with hardship. From a broken engagement to a divorce, Chrishell has had to endure heartbreak after heartbreak. But, she hasn’t let that dull her hope of an enduring romantic partnership nor has she settled for the next best thing. She’s refusing to settle in her romantic relationships and is sticking to the desires she has for her life.

Chrishell is a modern woman carving out her own life. We can learn a lot from Chrishell in how to approach dating. But perhaps the most important is her overall outlook on life: face every challenge with eyes wide open and a heart full of hope.

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