You might have stumbled across the word “simp” recently, as the slang word has been yanked into popular culture.
The word seems to have various connotations. For example, on Urban Dictionary, a simp is defined as "a man that puts himself in a subservient/submissive position under women in hopes of winning them over, without the female bringing anything to the table."
An article at the Daily Dot points out that while the term is mostly used "ironically and without misogynistic undertones,” "it doesn't take much to be called a simp" in some anti-feminist spaces, and that "everything from pining after a crush to actually respecting women could be considered simping.”
The Word Simp Is Everywhere
The word has taken monoculture by storm. We have seen comedy videos on YouTube titled “Addicted to Simping | My Strange Addiction” to TikTok dances dedicated against the “act” of simping, and even articles titled “How To Not Be A Simp.”
Well, you get the picture – being called a simp is not particularly complimentary. The word has pretty negative connotations, and every guy under the sun at this point has probably been accused of “simping for a girl” or engaging in “simp” related activities.
Too often, simp is being used to describe good men who are simply engaging in chivalry.
However, amid its popularity, the word “simp” is slowly losing all of its true meaning. Too often, we’re now witnessing this word being used to describe good men who are simply engaging in chivalry or those who demonstrate healthy masculine traits.
Being Nice To Women Makes You a Simp
Now, nice guys who are simply caring towards their wives or girlfriends are labelled “simps.” Even men who treat their significant others respectfully are accused of being “simps.”
I mean, this is nothing short of hysteria. What used to be a fringe social trend has evolved into demeaning perfectly normal (even admirable!) behavior as some sort of crime.
This begs the question: what are men supposed to do? Are they not supposed to treat their wives well? Are they expected never to compliment their girlfriend? Or wait for it, are men supposed to mistreat their significant other? Because this is where the social trend seems to be heading.
What are men supposed to do? Are they not supposed to treat their girlfriends well?
Ultimately, it’s evident more than ever that we must not strip this term of its original meaning and connotations. Doing so could be very harmful to both men and women in the long run.
Rather than encouraging men to treat women with respect and love, men will be encouraged to take advantage of women, treat them badly, and abandon chivalry altogether. Who wants that?!
Chivalry ≠ Simping
But today, we see people using the term to describe any man who remotely does anything nice for a woman. The increasing accusations of simping demonstrate a dangerous, deep disrespect for women and push the narrative that all relationships are transactional. Further, it encourages men to embrace misogynistic narratives.
Obviously, simps do exist. An example of “simping” would probably be buying Belle Delphine’s bath water or sending multiple unsolicited DMs to random girls on Instagram. Which, we must admit, is pretty unflattering behavior.
The increasing accusations of simping demonstrate a dangerous, deep disrespect for women.
However, a man buying his wife a present in the marriage domain is not “simping.” It’s healthy, masculine behavior that’s normal and loving in the context of a relationship.
Being chivalrous is now being falsely misinterpreted as unwanted behavior, and this is disastrous in a society where chivalry is already dying.
In the past, men who didn’t protect women and who treated them disrespectfully were rightfully accused of having bad character; however, in 2021, men who exhibit these qualities are celebrated for “not being simps.”
If we care about preserving healthy gender dynamics and relationships, the word simp must not be stripped of its original meaning. We want men to feel encouraged to act respectfully and chivalrously toward women, not be made fun of as if it isn’t manly behavior.
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