What does it mean to be a virtuous woman who deserves a good man? Many women feel entitled to a wonderful, caring boyfriend or husband, yet a woman must work on herself to make sure she’s prepared to meet the right person. Here are four feminine virtues to strive for.
It’s important to reflect on what it means to be a virtuous woman and learn how to cultivate it before being in a relationship.
Being graceful is not necessarily about how you move your body, but about how you conduct and control yourself. It means taking hardships in stride, and not letting things get to you too deeply. Instead of being petty, holding a grudge, or getting mad at someone, a graceful woman is patient and forgiving.
Grace is what helps a woman to manage her relationships and maintain harmony among those around her. Being graceful means leaving people better off than we found them.
Grace is what helps a woman to manage her relationships and maintain harmony.
A graceful woman is comfortable with her femininity. She doesn’t try to be masculine, and she isn’t overtly sexual. She likes who she is and is charming, polite, elegant, kind, and generous.
A woman’s beauty and her virtue go hand-in-hand. If a woman acts virtuously, she will be more beautiful. True beauty radiates from within to the outer world.
St. Thomas Aquinas wrote that the three characteristics of beauty are radiance, harmony, and wholeness. Beauty occurs when we treat ourselves, others, and the world around us as best as we can. Striving for health and wholesomeness makes you beautiful.
Beauty occurs when we treat ourselves, others, and the world around us as best as we can.
Being beautiful doesn’t mean looking like a supermodel or obsessing over your appearance. While it’s good to cultivate your beauty, too much focus on looks can lead to narcissism. You need to cultivate your inner and outer beauty without getting carried away. You want to like what you see when you look in the mirror or see a photo of yourself, but also not be obsessed with your looks.
Do try to do your best? That’s beauty. Beauty is about putting in your best efforts to make things better instead of worse.
Respect Your Body
A virtuous woman treasures herself and treats herself like a pearl. She doesn't give her body away to just anyone. She has strong boundaries, and she knows she’s precious and valuable. Respecting your body can mean abstaining from sex until you are committed to the right person, and it can also mean eating well and exercising regularly.
Having good boundaries and staying fit will speak for itself.
Having good boundaries and staying fit will speak for itself, and a good man will recognize that you are cognizant of the importance of treating your physicality well. As you respect yourself, so he will respect you.
The 2004 movie Mean Girls is a good example of how not to act towards fellow women. A virtuous woman is not catty and mean, but sisterly, kind, and supportive to other women in her life. This means not gossiping about other women, being manipulative, or acting cruel and unfair towards the women in your life. A virtuous woman will not put other women down in the mistaken belief that it will lift herself up, and she’ll try her best to be supportive and happy for other women.
Keep negative feelings at bay by being grateful for what you have.
In the social media era, it can be tempting to indulge in jealous feelings about other women. Keep in mind that social media is everyone’s highlight reel, and there’s a lot going on behind the scenes that you don’t see. Be supportive of other women instead, and try your best to keep negative feelings at bay by being grateful for what you have.
You can practice virtue until it becomes habitual. The root of being virtuous is knowing your inherent value. Being virtuous creates a feeling of worthiness instead of entitlement. When you know your value, you treasure yourself. This knowledge will pave the way for another to treasure you.