Today, the Supreme Court made a historic decision to overturn Roe v. Wade, the 1973 landmark case that granted federal constitutional protections to women to abort their unborn babies.
This decision has been met with much resistance. There are already groups forming outside of the Supreme Court in Washington, DC to oppose this SCOTUS ruling, and many cities are bracing themselves for a weekend of protests and perhaps even riots. This decision doesn't automatically mean that abortion will be illegal; it instead defers the decision to each state rather than the federal government having a say over abortion laws.
But while the internet is full of people claiming that this decision will hurt women more than anything else, overturning Roe v. Wade only poses a positive benefit for women, not only because they will be free of the devastating physical and mental side effects that come with aborting your own baby, but because it will very likely change the way they approach dating and sex in their future.
On-Demand Abortion Perpetuates Hookup Culture and Stupid Sex
There's no denying that our culture is experiencing one of the most promiscuous eras we have ever seen in terms of sex and hooking up. The media, entertainment, and mainstream culture teach women that it's empowering to "have sex like a man"—to give your body to any guy you find attractive in the moment, to have random sex without "catching feelings," to throw away the idea that committed love is the best environment in which to enjoy meaningful and enjoyable sex. We're constantly told that it's a good thing to have sex with many different people if we feel like it, and that has led to many women engaging in stupid sex for most of their single lives.
Having widespread access to abortion only perpetuates this culture. We know that roughly 99% of abortions are elective, meaning they're not done for instances of rape or incest, but rather they're performed for women who simply don't want the responsibility of raising a baby. The rise of abortions each year coincides with the rise of hookup culture. Of course, women are going to get pregnant more often than we were before if we are having sex more often with multiple partners.
The rise of abortions each year coincides with the rise of hookup culture.
No matter how much we want to deny it, knowing that one has easy access to abortion until the point of viability (which is a contested point anyway, as some people say the point of viability is 21 weeks while others insist it's 28 weeks) makes women much more fearless in their sexual escapades. Your birth control failed? No worries, you can grab an abortion pill at the local clinic. Your condom failed? That's okay, you have access to abortion as soon as you find out you're pregnant.
Of course, knowing that you have this to fall back on at any point makes you much more likely to engage in empty sex with men that you meet on a first date, out with friends, at a college party, etc. And while we've been told that promiscuous sex is empowering, women are biologically wired to generate feelings for the man we give our body to, as well as the baby we know is in our womb when we first see that pregnancy test. We're not doing ourselves any favors by denying these biological facts. That's why, at the end of the day, while it may be painful in the beginning to adjust to, removing the option for on-demand abortion will only improve women's lives in the long run, especially when it comes to dating and finding a suitable partner.
Restricting Access to Abortion Will Encourage Women to Date More Consciously
When a woman knows that her options for abortion are restricted, she will automatically have to be more careful with her sex life. She'll have to think twice about who she's having sex with, how she's using contraception and protection, and how close she gets to a man she may be dating. After all, the increased likelihood of becoming a mother makes you think more long-term and more critically about what you do with your body.
Abortion activists will try to paint this as a negative effect of overturning Roe v. Wade, but in the long run this will only serve women in a positive way. This will force women to think more critically about who they're dating and whether that man could become a good husband or father. It will make them more conscious about what birth control and protection they're using. It will even make them think twice about having sex with a random guy they meet at a bar.
The third wave of feminism taught us that "having sex like a man" is something that we should value and aim for, and it also taught us that anyone who tries to restrict this behavior or discourage women from this behavior is backwards, power-hungry, and controlling. There is nothing wrong with encouraging people to limit their primal behavior and desires. Yes, of course we live in a free country, but just because we have freedom doesn't mean we should delve into licentiousness. While feminists may call you all sorts of names for simply stating that it's better for women to save sex for a committed relationship, we should encourage this behavior not because we are controlling or because we hate women, but because we know that in the long run that is what's best for women and for society as a whole. Society is a living organism in which all of our decisions affect each other, and if one part of the population is decaying due to poor choices that rot away our individual mental and physical health, that will have a very real impact on the rest of our community and country.
Women deserve the absolute best—and the best does not include giving your body away to random guys who don't care about you.
At the end of the day, women deserve the absolute best—and we shouldn't be afraid to say that the best does not include giving your body away to random guys who don't care about you and who won't make good fathers should you get pregnant. The prospect of women having less access to abortion will only encourage them to think more consciously about who they're going to bed with and who they're dating. We want women to feel empowered and fulfilled, and no matter how much society tries to tell us otherwise, empowerment and fulfillment don't come with having sex with a guy who doesn't really care about you.
We should be excited about the overturning of Roe v. Wade, not only for the lives of future babies, but for the lives of adult women. Women should be offered the very best, and that most definitely includes living a life with self-respect and a consideration for your future—and perhaps your future family.