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Children themselves are gifts to us. They are the physical manifestation of our love as a married couple, and through them, it shows that our love cannot be separated because it exists wholly as another life in its own body. As parents, we get the rewarding opportunity to guide, teach, and show the wonders of the universe to our children. Though they are little carbon copies of us, they have their own souls and personalities that we get to nurture. Everything they initially learn comes from the home that we create for them. It comes from learning by example as children; thus we need to lead by example as parents and as a married couple. That is why the best gift you could give your child this year and have it make a lasting impact on them forever, is the gift of a strong marriage.
The best gift you could give your child this year and have it make a lasting impact on them forever, is the gift of a strong marriage.
What is a strong marriage?
A strong marriage is one of devotion to the other person, your spouse. Devotion is defined as love or loyalty for another person, and the word is synonymous with faithfulness, fidelity, and commitment. All of these qualities are what sets a marriage apart from a relationship because in a marriage you officially promise to uphold these values. The unshakable commitment to these behaviors is what makes a marriage strong.
What does it even mean to be married?
Being married means that you are on the same team. They call a marriage a union because you are united as one. Therefore, you must approach life as one: one union, one unit, one team. This helps establish a stable foundation from which a child can learn their values because the values are present and known between the oneness of the union. There aren't two approaches to life or two different outlooks on what the primary values are, but instead, there is an already developed and established unity between the two parents, both of whom know what their values are now as a married couple and how they will approach life as one.
Why does it matter?
It not only makes it easier on you the couple if you are on the same team and page when raising your children, but it helps out the community as a whole, or on a larger scale of humanity as a whole, when we give a solid foundation built on truth and values for our children from a united front. Having children is not isolated to just the family that you have created, but it affects the entire population, and not just in a quantitative “census tract” kind of way. Our communal morale is what drives the emotions and the behaviors of our society. If we stop caring about our neighbors, we start to forget our direction as humans. If we don’t raise a good family to impact those neighbors and the community positively, we start to forget our differences from animals. And if we don’t have a strong marriage, we start to forget our own ability to love, an innate sense that comes so naturally to us that we tend to place love into things that don’t qualify as proper destinations for our love, such as money, power, and mundane things.
Our communal morale is what drives the emotions and the behaviors of our society.
Love your spouse with dignity to create a strong marriage to show your children the proper kind of union, which then, in turn, shows them how to treat others and themselves appropriately. One day our children are going to grow up and be in search of their own spouses. If we don’t as a community make it a priority to give them the inner strength and fortitude of a strong marriage and home to draw from, then we are setting our next generations up for failure. We need to shed our selfishness and start looking to the other person in front of us. When we are more concerned about their well-being, they will, in turn, think of our well-being.
We need to reorder the hierarchy of what we find important in our lives and put love, family, and virtue at the center from which our behaviors and actions manifest. A lot of millennials talk about leaving a legacy or an empire behind, but everyone thinks this is only possible in the sense of a business, something of monetary value. The truth is that you can leave a legacy behind, but make it one of good souls. Let the home you create be a legacy for the children that pass through it and teach them how to do the same for their children. Young women these days seem to be obsessed with being a #BossBabe, but the truth is there’s nothing more “Boss” than sacrificing yourself for your children and spouse.
Who am I to tell you that this is necessary?
My parents played one of the most significant roles in my life and thus shaped my perspective on how I make my choices. They had a stable marriage and made it a priority to tell me that they were always a team. I am so thankful because of how I was raised knowing and witnessing my parent's strong union, through tough times and good. It allowed me to become who I am at my core. Being raised through a strong marriage helped me make the choices that led me to the life I am leading now, and I could not be happier with the outcome. They showed me the building blocks for what I needed to look for when picking a spouse and creating our life together, which sequentially brought forth new life.
As a new parent, I find that I am continually trying to get a smile out of my baby girl, which isn’t hard because she loves to do it. She’s basically smiling 98% of her day, and while those are lovely subjective percentages, I still get worried about that other 2% of the time when she’s not smiling, which I admit is ridiculous. However, that concern shows me that no matter what the case is, parents want to see their children happy, living good lives, and making the right decisions. If that’s the goal, then gift your child with a strong marriage. I mean this for existing marriages, soon-to-be marriages, and single people working on themselves to prepare for marriage. Even in cases where you are now a single parent, there is no time like the present to work on your current state, whatever it may be, and work towards giving your child a healthy marriage (even if it’s not the union they were born from) and a stable home.
They showed me the building blocks for what I needed to look for when picking a spouse and creating our life together, which sequentially brought forth new life.
Seek truth, and you’ll find beauty
Life can be beautiful if you give these things like love, marriage, and children, their true meanings. Denying life of its true form of meaning and the reason for certain things to exist starves the soul of that beauty. You personally cheapen your own life experience from the bountiful glory it can hold. You might not agree with everything I’ve stated. You might still think there’s another truth out there, but ask yourself if you’ve ever considered these concepts before in this light? If you haven’t heard about life this way before, maybe there’s more introspection to be done. Ask yourself if you’re honestly happy right now. If you don’t know, that means you’re still seeking the truth, and this is another way to view life. In my personal journey, these reasons for why certain elements of life exist, have not only been great explanations, but they have given the utmost importance to these elements, and the meaning is beyond any depths of virtue I could have created on my own.
When you’re called to rise to a higher good, a challenge such as living out a strong marriage and raising children, your life feels extremely important and purposeful. There’s so much beauty and truth in it. The human experience is a wondrous thing, and we should all rise up to our own personal challenges: you’ll gain strength, wisdom, and happiness through it.