Monogamy Has Become So Out Of Fashion That Some People Now Find It Hot

In recent years, there has been a shift in American culture that has resulted in much criticism of the traditional structures of marriage and dating. Monogamy, a committed relationship between two people, is now seen as an oppressive institution that deprives people of their sexual freedom and expression. Although everyone accepted monogamy as the fabric of love and marriage, there are more and more people today who reject the idea and instead search for an alternative. A February 2023 poll found that 34% of Americans view their ideal relationship as non-monogamous. Gen Z expressed so much interest in having non-monogamous relationships that the popular dating app Hinge added a "relationship type" to reflect it. But all the pushback against monogamy lately has made it so taboo that some people find it to be sexy.

Monogamy Has Become So Out of Fashion That Some People Now Find It Hot

A Coveteur article called "Is Monogamy So Out It's Kinky?" details a story of a man called Johnny who was considering moving in with his boyfriend. They're contemplating exclusivity, a shift from their long-standing open arrangement. To some, this transition might not seem radical. Yet, within the context of the modern dating scene, where non-monogamous relationships have surged in popularity, their decision feels remarkably transgressive.

Since the beginning of their relationship, Johnny and his boyfriend have embraced what they amusingly refer to as "gentleman's intermission," a term borrowed from the TV show 30 Rock. In essence, it's an open agreement allowing extracurricular activities when the other party is absent. This open arrangement is increasingly common, not just among gay couples, but across the board. Monogamy seems to have fallen out of favor among many people, especially with the looming divorce rate. Younger generations now harbor growing cynicism toward traditional romantic commitments. In this landscape, apps fuel the trend by offering an array of non-monogamous options, opening up a world where the lines of relationships are constantly negotiated and redefined.

Apparently, the appeal of monogamy is straightforward: love, trust, and the promise of a committed partner.

But monogamy might be making a comeback, according to Coveteur. Apparently, the appeal of monogamy is straightforward: love, trust, and the promise of a committed partner. For progressive Gen Zers, monogamy offers a tantalizing thrill that is paradoxically tied to the fear it evokes.

"Monogamy feels like a decision to press 'sip' even if you know there is a 50/50 chance of being betrayed, or worse, humiliated in a children’s science museum. With the risk of betrayal, the decision to trust is always a gamble. In that sense, monogamy feels dangerous. It’s risky. Maybe I’ve been corrupted by living in LA too long, but monogamy is starting to feel like the most transgressive option. And isn’t that kind of kinky when you think about it?" the article reads.

Now we've come full circle, apparently. This generation has become so accustomed to deviancy, and so used to rejecting anything normal and healthy, that any kind of normalcy feels taboo to them. Of course, monogamy is risky. Committing yourself to one person for the rest of your life is certainly a gamble, but that's part of what true love is. You trust someone entirely, and you both go all in 100%, and that's what makes that risk worth it. Having the so-called freedom to sleep around with whoever you want may seem exciting and shiny, but it doesn't offer the reward that comes with lifelong commitment, and in order to reach that huge reward, you have to take a big risk. It's a bit silly that it took progressives this long to realize this, only after they bashed monogamy and traditional marriage for years.

This turnaround reflects how obsessed our culture has become with sexual deviancy. If things like polyamory, non-monogamy, and cheating hadn't become so common and acceptable, we would have never ended up at the point where monogamy is considered taboo. And yet here we are. Regardless of what the current cultural climate may be, monogamy has been proven time and time again to be a healthy life choice for most people. Married individuals live longer, experience better health, and even have more success financially. There may be ups and downs in our society that make one type of alternative romance seem better than the other, but monogamy stands the test of time, whether it's in vogue or out of style.

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