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Being A Good Woman Is About More Than Getting A Man

It’s time to set the record straight about what it means to be a woman of value. Often, we evaluate our female friends based on beauty, style sense, and social life – all in an effort to attract male attention.

By Nea Logan2 min read
Being A Good Woman Is About More Than Getting A Man

Some dare say that a quality woman is one who can “pull” a man. This couldn’t be further from the truth, as there’s more to being a well-rounded person than the presence of a significant other.

Femininity groups are rife with advice to help ladies be better lovers of men or to prepare for marriage someday. But why is no one asking what it means to be a good woman outside of the context of a relationship? Even if a man isn’t standing there, there’s still all the reason in the world to make self-improvement a priority.

Good Women Create Stronger Communities

A good woman need not save her roses for a passionate romance. She spreads her flowers to anyone in need through altruism and good will. You can find her teaching seniors how to use TikTok at the assisted living center. Or she’s tutoring math to young girls after school. Compassionate and caring, she isn’t waiting around to cater to a man when her community is just as worthy of her loving kindness. In fact, her compassion is in demand. Hospitals, libraries, and youth centers are often full of young women who are making their mark.

She isn’t waiting around to cater to a man when her community is just as worthy of her loving kindness.

Good Women Motivate Others

A woman worth her salt doesn’t keep her good virtues to herself. She shares the wealth of her wisdom, helping younger girls, friends, and others in her social circles to be better. Without a single stingy bone in her body, we can go to her with a problem and she’ll send us off with a solution. Great women don’t hoard helpful information. Rather, you’ll see them leaning on their natural capacity to nurture and teach, leading whole communities and empowering future generations. 

Good Women Admit Their Faults and Overcome Them

The sense of pride brought about by the rising femininity community is encouraging and needed to counter the status quo. However, overzealousness in embracing these cliques can bring about a sense of elitism as well as “purity tests” to find the fairest feminine woman of them all. Being a good woman is never about putting down another to lift ourselves up. Rather, it’s an opportunity to face the mirror and examine ourselves in all our flawed glory while choosing to be better.

A good woman never puts down another to lift herself up. 

Good Women Seek Better Well-Being

It’s a shame that self-improvement tends to only be a priority when a man is in sight. Otherwise, some women completely forgo personal health goals simply because she isn’t in the dating scene, and this is quite the shame. Physical activity and healthy habits are worth pursuing in all stages of life – not just during mating season. Should Prince Charming never arrive, you’ll need to save yourself from all the future health dragons you’ll have to slay anyway.

Good Women Are Involved Citizens

Attend any school board meeting as of late and you’ll find mobs of concerned moms pressing onward in their fight for better education. In fact, you’ll never see anyone work harder for youth than an alliance of mothers and teachers who use their innately feminine gifts to unite and protect our future. Great women are model citizens who are actively engaged in the happenings in their local communities and also on the national front. 

We should be able to rally for important causes without needing to sacrifice our important feminine roles. 

And as for notions that women should stay in the home and let their husbands do the work, that doesn’t apply to those of us who are single, flexible, and able. We should be able to rally for important causes without needing to sacrifice our important feminine roles. 

Closing Thoughts

Why are we waiting until the prospect of a partner or love interest comes along before we work on pursuing greatness? The motive to change your life for the better shouldn’t be led by a proverbial carrot – a promise of everlasting love – but rather a personal commitment to achieving a higher self and a better world for those around you. May we be remembered not only for our beauty, style, and social graces, but also for our compassion, civic duty, and commitment to self.

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