Ask Evie: My Sister Had An Abortion And I Don’t Know How To Forgive Her

READER’S QUESTION: "Hi Evie, A few years ago, I was able to locate my long lost half-sister that my father had with another woman before having me. I’m very pro-life, especially because my mom almost made the wrong choice when she was pregnant with me, so I sympathize deeply with children who weren’t so lucky. I was so excited to drive across the country to meet my half-sister for a two-day trip and start an amazing relationship. The first day that I met her, she told me she had an abortion. Hearing that broke me, but I managed to hide it and still be friendly because I didn’t want to make her feel even more guilty. Since she told me, I feel like I can’t emotionally bond with her, and I don’t reach out to her often or try to organize a trip to see her because I still feel sad about the child that was lost. Do I continue to have a distant relationship with her? Do I tell her how I feel and risk her feeling guilty?"