Femininity comes naturally to some lucky women, while for others, it has to be practiced with a conscious effort.
Being feminine is both nature and nurture. If you didn't naturally gravitate towards playing with dolls, or you weren't encouraged to be girly, soft, and gentle as a young girl, chances are, you were probably more comfortable operating from your masculine energy growing up.
Many women went through a tomboy phase, and it wasn't until they reached puberty that they started experimenting with being more girly and feminine. This can sometimes stick with us or fade once real life starts to kick in for us as young adults.
The good news is it's easy to tap into your divine feminine power with a few daily rituals. But, like any habit, it takes a bit of discipline, patience, and consistency.
Aim to incorporate a few of the below into your daily routine, and watch your feminine energy start to flow more naturally.
1. Take Good Care of Yourself
The best and quickest way to connect to your femininity is by taking good care of yourself. Make a conscious effort to nurture your beauty, your physical and mental health, and your environment. Take action by doing at least one good thing for yourself every day. It also helps to add it to your to-do list, so you're motivated to do it.
When you take care of yourself, you subconsciously tell yourself that you deserve to be treated well.
Do you want to feel more healthy? If so, perhaps one of your goals could be to drink more water and do hip stretches, so you feel hydrated and relaxed. Or what about going for a 20-minute walk every day to clear your mind? Maybe try buying a bunch of your favorite flowers to lift your mood and brighten up your home.
When you take better care of your needs and wants, you're subconsciously telling yourself that you deserve to be treated well.
2. Hair and Makeup
One of the foundations of being a feminine woman is looking your best, starting with simple hair and makeup.
You don't have to wear a full face of makeup every day, but taking the time to apply your makeup correctly and brushing your hair so you look well-groomed is critical. Have some fun with it and try out different hairstyles. You could put your hair up in a bun, or sweep it to one side, or try on a hairpiece. Explore with hair and makeup, and take the time to feel beautiful with different looks.
3. Dress Up around the House
If there’s one thing that makes a woman feel alive, it's dressing up in a gorgeous outfit.
Instead of throwing on your everyday pair of jeans and top, grab something more interesting from the closet. Most women have loads of clothes they've only worn once or twice. For example, what about all those cute outfits you bought for your honeymoon that you haven’t worn since? Pull them out and wear them again! Or what about that stunning dress you bought for your cousin's wedding last summer?
Add accessories and heels to your outfit to feel more feminine.
If you feel like you don't have anything to wear, maybe it's time to update your wardrobe. Clothes are so cheap nowadays you can buy an entire wardrobe for just a few hundred dollars.
Pair your outfits with accessories and some nice heels to transform your look to feel more feminine.
4. Wear Perfume
Spraying on a bit of perfume can instantly make you feel like a feminine woman.
Again, most women have many perfume bottles that they hardly wear because they associate perfume with going out or for special occasions. Get into the habit of spraying perfume when you're getting ready. Not only will you smell good, but it will put you in the mindset that today is a special day and that you deserve to look, smell, and feel special.
5. Wear the Color Red
Wearing the color red can instantly make you look and feel more feminine, and science backs this up. Research at Glasgow University shows that the skin on women's faces becomes redder before she ovulates, which could be the reason why women appear healthier and more attractive when they're blushing.
Men find the color red magnetic and attractive.
It's also the reason why men are drawn to women who wear red lipstick or a red dress. They find the color red magnetic and attractive because it sends a biological signal to their brains that you're at your most fertile and more likely to be "in the mood."
6. Wear Silk Pajamas
Don't go to bed in any old pair of sweats and t-shirt. Treat yourself and invest in a beautiful pair of satin pajamas. Silk is more expensive, but synthetic satin feels just as lovely and is a fraction of the price. You could go for a cami nightdress, a short sleeve and boxer shorts set, or the classic blouse and trousers PJ set.
Not only does silk feel luxurious and delicate against your skin, but it will make you feel prettier and elevated as a woman.
7. Get a Manicure
Your nails look so much prettier when they’re done, so embrace your femininity by getting a manicure. Or if the budget is tight, do them yourself.
You could get gels, extensions, a classic French polish, or try a completely brand new color. Having manicured nails can feel like a treat and makes you look more put together.
Dancing is a great way to get out of your head and more in touch with your body. Set aside at least 10 minutes to dance to your favorite songs or playlist. You may want to do this in privacy so you can completely let yourself go.
Set aside at least 10 minutes to dance to your favorite songs or playlist.
Start by closing your eyes and taking a deep breath to ground yourself. Then start moving your body slowly to the rhythm of the beat. Move your arms, torso, and hips in sensual motions to feel in the flow. Once you're done, notice how much softer and grounded you feel.
The essence of being feminine is all about creation; even our bodies can create another human being! So take some time to work on a creative project. You could try painting, knitting, cooking, decorating, gardening, pottery, or singing. Being creative is fun, freeing, feminine, and gives you a feeling of satisfaction.
10. Connect with Other Women
Sometimes the best way to connect with feminine energy is by being around other women. Call up that girlfriend who is always positive and uplifting, or have lunch with that friend you haven’t seen in ages, or reach out to a woman you look up to for inspiration and guidance.
We women can have a profound influence on one another. We also have a unique capacity to understand each other's feelings and emotions on a much deeper level, which can leave you feeling rejuvenated and powerful.
Being a woman is truly amazing, and embracing your feminine energy can be a beautiful thing. Practice some of these action steps to transform your life and watch your confidence grow.
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