You Will Never Be “Just One Of The Guys”
We all know her. The girl that curses like a sailor, partakes in the burp contests, and laughs at the guys’ bathroom humor with a beer in her hand. She’s not into the girly stuff; she has more male friends than female friends, and yet, she’s unable to lock down a man for life.
Few people reflect fondly on their time in middle school. Navigating the social hierarchy felt like trying to decipher a foreign language. As young girls, the only thing we could think about was male attention. Every girl only wanted to be seen as pretty, normal, and dateable. Since the boys were also suffering their own changes in developments, they were often so intimidated by girls that many of them chose to play it safe and cling to their friends, as opposed to wading into the waters of flirtation and female pursuit. In response, some girls got creative and fashioned a type of loophole, one that allowed them to get close to the boys in a way that felt natural and free of pressure. They would try to convince the boys that they were no different from them, that they were simply one and the same.