Reality TV star Stassi Schroeder emotionally dedicates her new book, “Off with My Head: The Definitive Basic B***h Handbook to Surviving Rock Bottom” to her daughter with a few simple, powerful words: For Hartford, you saved me.
If you’re a Bravoholic like myself, then Stassi Schroeder needs no introduction, but for those who haven’t followed her rollercoaster of a career over the past few years, I’ll catch you up to speed.
Who Is Stassi and How Did She Get Here?
Stassi was the breakout star of one of the most popular reality TV shows ever: Vanderpump Rules on Bravo, which has followed the lives of Lisa Vanderpump’s restaurant staff’s very dramatic lives over the years. From her emotional break up with Jax to finding true love with her now-husband Beau to leaving her career as a server to pursue a career as a podcaster and even best-selling author, we’ve seen Stassi’s life unfold on camera until her career came to a screeching halt when she was fired from the franchise in June 2020.
The firing came in the midst of the BLM movement’s popularity in June 2020 after former cast member Faith Stowers, who was the only black cast member, called out Stassi and Kristen Doute for falsely reporting her to the police in 2018 for a crime she didn’t commit. Stassi was immediately dropped by her PR agency, most of her sponsors, lost her extremely popular podcast “Straight up with Stassi,” and was fired from Bravo, which completely rocked the Vanderpump Rules franchise since she had been arguably the most popular and successful cast member.
“Racially insensitive comments from my past have resurfaced. It is important that I continue to take accountability for what I have said and done, while pushing myself to do better. I have grown significantly from the person I was then, and I am still filled with remorse and regret for the hurt I caused,” Stassi wrote in a statement. “I am grateful for the people in my life that continue to check me and push me to evolve into a more educated person.”
Soon after releasing this statement, Stassi announced on Instagram that she and her then fiancé, now husband, Beau Clark were expecting their daughter Hartford. Stassi proceeded to start a new, family-centric podcast with Beau solely for Patreon subscribers called “The Good, The Bad, The Baby” but maintained a relatively quiet public persona…that is, until now.
How Her Daughter Saved Her
Stassi just released her second book last week and has returned to being a guest on podcasts for the first time in almost two years since her cancellation. She recently appeared on “The Morning Toast” (TMT) to discuss her journey and what compelled her to write her book. Stassi said she was approximately 70% done writing a sequel to her first book, Next Level Basic, when her cancellation happened. She begged her publisher not to drop her book deal in the midst of it and when they agreed to give her the longest extension imaginable, she decided to take some time to reflect on what had happened and completely rewrote her second book all the while being pregnant.
Stassi recounts how had she not been pregnant, she likely would have resorted to alcohol and Xanax to cope with the darkest period of her life when she felt the whole world completely hated her. She fears what this would have led to. However, her pregnancy gave her purpose and strength at a time when she felt like she had none. On TMT, she joked about how in the midst of her cancellation, everyone told her not to stress out because it was bad for the baby, which obviously she couldn’t help as her entire world was falling apart, and that she would cry and feel it all because her tears would give this baby so much strength. Being pregnant made her put this baby first, above her own weakness, insecurity, and pain.
She then decided to re-write her second book to make it deeper and more impactful than the previous draft. She took time to self-reflect and grow, and she poured her heart into the new version of the book and wrote almost the entire thing sitting in her daughter’s nursery. The constant reminder of this beautiful, new life inside of her motivated her to write what she feels is her best book yet at a time that could’ve been her darkest.
Spilling the Tea: Valley Rules
While guest hosting TMT, Stassi shared some major tea in which she claimed that before she was fired from Bravo, she was planning a large wedding in Italy that was going to be featured on Vanderpump Rules and would lead to a spinoff tentatively titled Valley Rules. This new show would follow the original cast in their day to day lives since most of them no longer worked at Lisa Vanderpump’s restaurant, and Vanderpump Rules would follow a new cast that currently worked at the restaurant. Unfortunately, due to Covid delaying her wedding, which was shortly followed by her cancellation, the show never came to fruition.
Stassi recently shared on Instagram that Off with My Head is officially a New York Times best seller, proving that a lot can happen in a matter of two years. Stassi and Beau finally had their dream wedding in Italy just last week on May 12 with their daughter, Hartford, by her side.
While she is unsure whether she will ever return to reality television, she is certain that the best thing that ever happened to her was her daughter Hartford who arrived at a time when she needed her most.
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