This Heartbreaking “What Nobody Told Me About Abortion” Essay Is Going Viral

This article was updated on June 18th, 2025. The original version attributed inaccurate quotes to Romy Holland.

More women are beginning to speak out about the reality they faced once the political slogans faded.

One of them is Romy Holland, who shared her devastating story in her essay, What Nobody Told Me About Abortion. Her words are not politically calculated or sanitized. They are raw, personal, and haunting. And they reveal something the abortion industry would rather stay hidden: the profound, often unbearable pain abortion leaves behind.

When Holland discovered she was pregnant, she had been dating her boyfriend for several months. She cared for him. She even, briefly, let herself imagine a future as a mother. “There was a flicker of excitement inside me when I thought about meeting my baby,” she writes. But fear quickly set in: fear of judgment, fear of her life changing irrevocably, fear of losing everything she had worked for.

Her boyfriend didn’t pressure her into abortion, but he also didn’t encourage her to keep the baby. His muted reaction left her feeling overwhelmingly alone. But nobody told her that choosing abortion would shatter her heart.

What makes Holland’s testimony so powerful is her willingness to name what so many are too afraid to say: abortion isn’t a simple "medical procedure." It’s a mother choosing to end the life of her child.

In the conclusion of her essay, Holland is clear: she shares her story not to judge others, but to tell the truth that she wishes someone had told her.

Her honesty cuts through the glamourized narratives surrounding abortion. And her grief demands that we confront what so many people would rather ignore.

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