Hating men is a pastime of modern feminists. Second wave feminist Gloria Steinem’s most famous quote indicates just how deep this hatred runs: “A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle.”
Just when we thought these opinions of men were solely perpetuated by feminist women who lean left, 28-year-old conservative commentator Tomi Lahren recently joined in the tirade and ranted about the low quality of men that are apparently left in America.
“It might not be us. It might be men,” she insisted in an Instagram live video. “I think they’re trash all over this country. A lot of men don’t know how to treat women.”
It’s popular to blame men for society’s problems today, and it’s even more popular to talk about women’s inherent superiority to men (just last year Barack Obama announced that women are simply better fit to be leaders than men are). But quite frankly I’m sick of hearing the overwhelming majority of women complain about the quality of men in our country—without ever taking a moment to ask how women have been adding to the equation.
Sexually Graphic Lyrics and Soft Porn
Seeing Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion’s latest music video “W.A.P.” confirmed that the ones who degrade and demean women the most are, in fact, other women. The level of raunch and degradation that’s present in this soft porn that somehow passes as a music video is perfectly representative of what women have become in much of media today: cheap and oversexualized, yet not to be touched, ever. All in the name of freedom and liberation, of course.
“W.A.P.” confirmed that the ones who degrade and demean women the most are, in fact, other women.
The “W.A.P.” music video opens up by taking us through the entrance of some sort of kinky, twisted Willy Wonka Sex Factory, where nearly naked women await you in every room and cartoonish private parts of women appear at every turn. The message is clear: women’s sexuality is stripped of all its meaning and distributed like colorful products, ripe for the picking.
Think I’m exaggerating? Here are some lyrics: “Whores in this house / There’s some whores in this house / Beat it up, nigga, catch a charge / Extra large, extra hard / Put this pussy right in your face / Swipe your nose like a credit card / Hop on top, I wanna ride / Do a kegel while it’s inside / Spit in my mouth, look in my eyes.”
These wildly graphic lyrics are an excellent reminder that mainstream Hollywood wants nothing more than to publicize the very private experience that is sex and sexuality — and call it women’s empowerment. However, there’s one lyric in particular that’s worth focusing on: “I don’t cook, I don’t clean / But let me tell you how I got this ring.”
Hollywood wants nothing more than to publicize the very private experience that is sex and sexuality.
They’re not only rejecting the traditional role of the wife — taking care of the home and family — but they’re actually replacing it with something else entirely. And that’s wild, performative sex. Forget all the intricate gifts that were bestowed upon women, like our high emotional intelligence and our nurturing femininity. All you need to get and keep a man is sex, sex, sex. And the raunchier the better.
Society Equates Nakedness with Self-Confidence
The media and Hollywood feed us a narrative that being publicly sexual is a sign of self-confidence. Women are taught that the ones who bravely show off their bare bodies are the ones who truly feel confident in themselves, and if we perform enough self-care and affirmations, we’ll be there in no time. Unashamed nakedness is an act of bravery for these women, and any disagreement is rooted in pure misogyny.
Women are taught that the ones who show off their bare bodies are the ones who truly feel confident.
This cultural shift has resulted in society pretending like women’s sexuality is something invaluable that can be waved around for everyone to see without consequences or judgment. It has also resulted in a culture full of single women who prioritize their sexuality over personality, success, values, etc. They act and dress in ways that invite much attention, but they also demand to be treated with the utmost respect, like princesses.
“W.A.P.” Tries To Make Sexuality Look Innocent
Perhaps the most disturbing part of the whole video was the fact that it was created with a childlike quality. Look at the colors, the setting, the feel of it. Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion innocently tiptoe down a brightly colored hallway as if they’re trying to find hidden candy or treasure. Their dresses are tight and revealing, but they’re bright neon colors, the kind of shades you would see in a kids’ candy shop. It’s as if they’re equating female sexuality with the innocence or natural curiosity that comes with childhood. This is dangerous in many different ways.
Female sexuality is not something that’s meant to be commodified or exploited. And it most certainly is not associated with child-like innocence or handing out candy. So the next time you hear a woman complaining about the “trash” quality of men that are out there, remind her that women being encouraged to throw away their sexuality at the drop of a hat, rather than nurture and protect the sacred gifts she has been given, has just as much, if not more, of an impact on the current state of our society.