Should Your Husband Be Your Boss? Viral Clip Of Wife Saying Her Husband Is Her Boss And King Sparks Conversation About Healthy Marriages

Feminism has dominated our society for many years now, but it seems like the pendulum is starting to swing back the other direction. Modern feminism has taught us that men are disposable, toxic, and patriarchal, and that women are much better off being single and sleeping around. But more and more women are waking up to the fact that feminism has destroyed families and disrupted the institution of marriage, which is the bedrock of any healthy society. This has resulted in a new wave of anti-feminism that includes women who enjoy being married, taking care of their family, and raising children. A viral video on Twitter features a wife who talks about why her husband is her "number one," and it has resulted in many people discussing what a healthy marriage looks like.

Viral Clip of Wife Saying Her Husband Is Her Boss and King Sparks Conversation About What Makes a Healthy Marriage

In a widely shared video, a Muslim woman wearing a hijab speaks about her relationship with her husband. "My husband is my boss," she says with a smile on her face. "My husband is number one. If my husband tells me, 'hey sit down,' I'll sit down." She says she will listen to her husband if he tells her she can't go out to see her friends today or tells her to go wash the dishes.

"I chose this man to be the king of my life," she continues. "And yes, I agree with everything he says and I do everything he says. And I do this because I chose this man. I put him in this position of my life. And this is how I honor and take care of and love the man in my life."

She says her husband does many great things for her and that's why she doesn't hesitate to listen to him and do what he wishes. She "chose someone to lead" her and that's why she'll do anything for him.

Many people have been discussing the video and adding their thoughts. Some women agree and say their man should be the leader of the household. Others can see her point but say that it's too far to call her husband her king and boss. It's an interesting discussion, especially when you think about the context of marriage in our culture today. The pendulum is swinging back the other way, but has it gone too far?

Much of what she says is applicable to any healthy marriage—letting your husband lead, honoring him by caring for him and respecting him. But does that automatically mean your husband is your boss? We may be getting into the weeds of semantics here, but the term boss may not be the healthiest representation of a husband. Boss implies that your husband keeps you on payroll and keeps track of your hours; even more importantly, it implies that there is a quid pro quo exchange between the two of you. And if there's anything that's unhealthy for a marriage, it's keeping tabs on everything your spouse does in order to evaluate them and their output.

There's also something big missing from this video: does the husband cherish and value her in the same selfless way that she serves him? Because marriage is not a one-way street. A successful, lifelong marriage includes two people who give and love equally. There's nothing wrong with obeying your husband and respecting him, but that is only visible in a healthy marriage if the husband is also providing, protecting, and cherishing his wife and children.

While there's nothing necessarily wrong or concerning about this woman's video (after all, her husband could very well be a wonderful man who cherishes her and respects her), content like this makes you wonder if the online conversation about marriage has overcorrected too far to the other extreme. Women should serve their husbands, but it's not a blind action that isn't reciprocated by love and care from their husbands, and it's certainly not in the context of a boss who keeps tabs on her work performance.