Quiz: What Kind Of Heart Do You Have, Based On How You Talk?

If manners maketh the man, as they say, it’s logical to surmise that how we talk, the words we use, and even the attitude we say them with or the meaning behind them define who we are. If we’re prone to pessimistic cynicism, we might be constantly trying to make everyone else feel as bad as we do. If we’re more thoughtful and careful with how we talk, we might be more prone to introspection but less prone to quick, timely responses.

So, what does how we talk have to do with the person we are? Our words are powerful, especially with the emotions they instill in ourselves and others and the consequences they result in. Our words also have the power to shape our very being – our mindset, our thoughts, our actions, our innermost selves. Here’s how to know what kind of heart you have, based on how you talk.

Your best friend calls you, inconsolable. Her boyfriend just dumped her out of nowhere! How do you respond?

1. Boyfriend, schmoyfriend. I always thought you could do so much better.

2. Does it feel like you’ve lost the love of your life?

3. Let’s get the gang together and go out later. You’ll forget about him before you know it.

4. Things are hard right now. But maybe it’s for the best.

You prepare extensively for an important presentation at work, but it doesn’t go over well. In fact, you wind up in the boss’s office afterward and get a stern talking-to. What’s your go-to response?

1. I’m sorry if you feel that way.

2. I know I messed everything up. Does this mean I’m fired?

3. What’s the big deal? No harm, no foul.

4. You’re right. I can do better.

Your boyfriend tells you in passing that his ex recently contacted him out of the blue. What do you say?

1. Was this the ex with the unflattering bangs or the one with the cankles?

2. I’m guessing she wants to get back together.

3. Is she in town? Let’s all go bowling later.

4. I know it didn’t end well, but you’re on good terms now. Because of that, I hope she’s doing well.

Your friend texts you in a panic. There’s a bake sale fundraiser for her child's class in the morning, and she’s swamped – she needs 50 cupcakes by tomorrow! What do you tell her?

1. Sorry not sorry, girl. Lack of preparation on your part doesn’t constitute an emergency on my part.

2. Ugh. We’ll never get it done in time! It’s just not possible.

3. Will anyone notice if I buy store-bought and pass them off as homemade?

4. Sure thing. I know you’ll return the favor sometime.

Your friend is at a major turning point in her life: Move across the country with no plan, or stay put with a stable job that’s not her passion. What’s your advice?

1. Do whatever you want. You’re young and beautiful, and good things are guaranteed to come your way, wherever you wind up.

2. Your job is boring, but you have to eat and pay rent. Stay where you are; you can figure out happiness later.

3. Forget all that. Let’s go backpacking in Europe.

4. You should do whatever you feel is best, and I’ll support you whatever you decide. 

A man at the grocery store takes the last pint of ice cream, cuts in front of you in the checkout line, and then narrowly misses hitting you in the parking lot as he speeds off. You roll down the window and say what?

1. An expletive-filled rant that would make your grandma blush. 

2. You open your mouth, but the words don’t come out. If only you could come up with a snappy insult.

3. Hope you enjoy the ice cream, buddy!

4. Nothing, and you roll the window back up. Everyone has bad days, and there are strangers out there who’ve definitely been victims of you every now and then.

You’re out on the town and spot a guy approaching you from across the bar. He’s cute, but pretty short – not what you’d normally go for. He opens with a witty line you weren’t expecting, but you practically have to look down at him to respond with:

1. Sorry, dude. Are you even tall enough for the height on your fake ID?

2. Are you sure you meant that for me? My friend over here is a model.

3. That was a good opening line; how’s your second one?

4. I like my whiskey like I like my men: bold and smooth.

Your sister is getting married, and you’re her maid of honor! You’re trying on bridesmaid dresses, and she happens to love one that you hate. What do you say when she says she won’t let you wear anything else?

1. I guess I can make anything look good.

2. I know none of us are supposed to outshine you, even if this doesn’t flatter me in any way.

3. I want one in every color for every day of the week.

4. It’s your wedding, sis. Your wish is my command.

You Got Mostly 1’s: A Proud Heart

If you were an animal in the wild, you’d be a lioness! You’ve got a proud heart, strong and stubborn. Your ego might get the best of you sometimes because you believe you’re always right – but you’re fiercely protective of your loved ones, and you always, always stand up for your values, even if it makes others uncomfortable. You’re more likely to say what everyone else is thinking, and you’re always willing to go toe-to-toe in an argument, making you a force to be reckoned with. You’re true to yourself, but you can be vain or a bit self-obsessed, depending on the situation. When you look good, you know you look good, and you’re less likely to change your viewpoint or perspective on issues and topics you feel strongly about. 

You Got Mostly 2’s: A Melancholic Heart

Your glass is half empty, and you wouldn’t have it any other way. You’ve got a melancholic heart, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you’re sad all the time. You bring a more pensive, thoughtful energy to your friend group, and you’re always down for long, introspective talks on a wide variety of topics. You consider each choice you make carefully, and bring more consideration to the smallest of decisions than most. Your pessimistic gloominess might not always be appreciated by your closest loved ones, but after all, variety is the spice of life.  You’re more prone to being down in the dumps than up in the clouds, but you don’t need to be cheered up. It’s just the way you are.

You Got Mostly 3’s: A Playful Heart

Men want to date you, and women want to be friends with you! You strive to live life to the fullest each and every day with your playful heart. You never take things too seriously (who’s got time for that?), and every setback or roadblock in your way is just part of the journey. Your biggest strength may be your downfall, however – you’re not the friend most would choose to bring to a funeral, for example, and your devil-may-care attitude isn’t always a boon in more serious contexts. You can make a joke out of any situation, which is great in some ways and not so great when a more solemn, mature tone is needed. But you’re not bogged down by anything, baby! You’re here for a good time, not a long time.

You Got Mostly 4’s: A Graceful Heart

She’s beautiful, and she’s got a graceful heart. You bring a refined sense of poise to the table, choosing your words carefully before you speak. Your graciousness is your biggest strength, but others might take advantage of it if you’re not careful. You’re always willing to pitch in and help, even if it’s inconvenient for you, and acts of service are truly your love language. You carry yourself with sophistication and refinement, even when no one is watching. Like a perfectly choreographed dance, you’re an expert at etiquette and communication. You accept both praise and criticism graciously, but you might have trouble really saying or doing what you think is right for fear of impropriety. Your words are sweet, just like your heart, and your understanding and intuition are gifts many around you covet.

Closing Thoughts

Whatever kind of heart you have, your words define who you are. Acknowledging that the words we choose have power and more meaning than we probably think also helps us recognize that we have the power to tailor our character by the words we use, for better or for worse.

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