"Liberal Woman" Complains That It's Hard To Find Masculine Men Who Aren't Conservative

She says it's difficult to find a liberal man who is willing to pay on the first date and fulfill a "more traditional masculine role in the relationship."

By Gina Florio3 min read
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In recent years, marriage rates in the United States have seen a decline. According to data from the U.S. Census Bureau, the marriage rate in 2019 was 16.3 per 1,000 total population, down from 19.4 in 2000. This decrease can be attributed to various factors, but modern feminism might be the biggest culprit of all. Naturally, there has also been a noticeable increase in the number of single, childless women, a trend that reflects the changing dynamics of personal choices and lifestyles compared to the tradition that was once common in the U.S. Advancements in reproductive technologies have additionally provided women with more choices regarding family planning. Options such as egg freezing and assisted reproductive techniques have seemingly extended the window of fertility, allowing women to postpone marriage and motherhood while focusing on other aspects of their lives.

But more and more women are waking up to the fact that they are single and unhappy in their 30s (or even in their 40s), and they're figuring out that they were given the wrong advice about dating and marriage. TikTok has become a breeding ground for women to get candid about the dating landscape and the struggles they're facing with single men. TikToker @ms_petch posted a video that has gone viral in which she laments over the fact that liberal men aren't living up to her standards.

TikToker Complains That Liberal Men Are Not Masculine Enough

@ms_petch shares something on TikTok that has made dating very difficult lately. She calls it "one of the saddest realizations" she has had recently. "As a liberal woman, it is really hard to find a man who's willing to play the more traditional masculine role in the relationship in today's day and age who is not a conservative," she admits. She attributes certain characteristics to a traditional, masculine man: paying for the first date, opening the door for the woman, caring for and providing for the woman. She wants all of this in a man—as long as he's not conservative.

"Obviously as a liberal woman, I do want to be respected for my independence and I do want to have my own autonomy in the relationship and not be conformed to the traditional female homemaker, childbearing role," she continues. "And most of the men that I dated who do have that more natural provider masculinity about them are normally conservative."

She is at a loss because she wants to be with a masculine man but doesn't want to compromise her morals and values. She asks her followers if she is asking for too much when she requests a man she can be "equal" with while he still provides for her.

The responses on Twitter reveal that nobody feels sympathy for her dilemma. In fact, they find it amusing that she wants such a masculine man who has liberal values. "Typically liberal 'doesn’t want to compromise values' but at the same time wants to reap the benefits ultra right leaning chad men provide," one user commented.

"No, she can't have her cake and eat it too. Masculine men want feminine women. Her views don't align with that," another said.

"Me married to a conservative man with all of what she wants," another person wrote.

Others joked about her hitting the wall, so to speak, and realizing that she was looking for the wrong thing in men all along. Regardless of what happens to this particular woman and her romantic future, she has highlighted a universal truth that would make dating so much easier for women if they would just accept it.

Yes, Conservative Men Are Indeed More Masculine

A Pew Research survey found that Republican men are more likely than Democratic men to describe themselves as very masculine (39% compared to 23%). Similarly, 78% of Republicans say masculinity is a good thing for society, compared to 49% of Democrats. Aside from surveys, you can look around our culture and see pretty clearly that men who are on the right act and look more masculine than their liberal counterparts. Is this a coincidence? Or is there more behind this difference?

When you consider the basic values of the right, it becomes clear why masculinity is more prevalent. Conservatives tend to be more involved in organized religion, which results in their being more likely to acknowledge that God created a specific order of the world that includes the natural relationship between masculinity and femininity, as well as a family that includes a father, mother, and children. Conservatives also value a strong family unit that maintains its independence from the federal government, a nation that stands strong against foreign powers, and personal responsibility. A country cannot achieve any of this without strong men at the helm who are willing to provide for their families and lead their communities.

Liberals, on the other hand, value diversity and equality above all else, and they also believe that there is no natural order involving men, women, and children. After all, if there were a natural order, then equality and equity would not be possible for them. People on the left often demand the government intervene in social issues and provide welfare for certain communities, allowing people to shirk personal responsibility on a grand scale. This overall mindset doesn't require men to be masculine leaders of the home or the country.

Ironically, @ms_petch claims that she doesn't want a conservative man because she likes her independence, her autonomy, and equality in a relationship—and yet, she is searching for all the qualities of a conservative man. Of course, she wants a man who provides for her, opens the door for her, and pays for the date. This is a natural desire for women because of our natural femininity. We were biologically and spiritually created to be cared for and protected by men. That doesn't mean we give up all our independence and ask for permission before we do things in our day-to-day life, but it does mean we are given the gift of having a man look after us. And in return, we nurture his home, give birth to his children, and care for the family.

Sadly, many modern women have been convinced that having independence and being provided for by a man are mutually exclusive. That's how you end up with single women like @ms_petch who have bought into a lie that prevents them from finding a lifelong relationship that will honor their femininity.

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