Is It "Boring" To Sleep With One Person For The Rest Of Your Life? The Truth Behind This Viral Post On X

A recent viral clip of popular podcast Call Her Daddy featured a question that was sent in to host Alex Cooper in which the writer lamented about her boyfriend’s reaction to her “body count.” He expressed his discontent with the fact that she had slept with multiple men before him, and Alex’s response was glib to say the least. She said every woman has a list of the men that she has slept with — “how fun!”  — and she claimed that the woman’s boyfriend was the one being unreasonable, because it’s completely normal and expected for a woman to sleep around, especially if she’s in between relationships. 

“You little f*cking b*tch boy,” she said to emphatically end the rant.

It’s all about free sex with whoever you’re attracted to. And that free sex is marketed as the most fun, fulfilling, and erotic sex known to womankind. This message has been shoved down our throat for decades now; one of the first TV shows that packaged sex in such a way was HBO’s “Sex and the City” (who could forget Samantha in particular?), and it was all downhill from there. Today, women are bred from a young age to believe that having sex with just one person for the rest of their lives is one of the most boring, devastating endings to an otherwise exciting life. 

A post on X went viral recently in which a single woman posed the question: “Y'ALL REALLY WANNA GET MARRIED AND HAVE SEX WITH THE SAME PERSON FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE????”

Underneath the all-caps query was a screengrab of Leighton Meester from “Gossip Girl,” with quite the disgusted look on her face. Because apparently, it’s revolting to even consider a woman might only give herself to one man for the remainder of her years on earth. 

The decline in popularity of marriage is partly due to the fact that marriage and its sanctity is grossly misunderstood. The postmodern interpretation of marriage is shallow and soulless. It’s nothing more than a view from a fleshly perspective, one that can only explain a lifetime union of two people as boring and unfulfilling. This is because we have been wrongly programmed to separate the physical from the emotional and spiritual, as if our bodies and what we do with our bodies is completely unrelated to our souls, our feelings, and our heart. Combine that with the fact that nearly everything in our postmodern society leads with sex: love stories, dating and relationships, even comedy. Sex is first and foremost, and then everything else is supposed to follow. So of course, when a single, emotionally malnourished woman who has been raised on the modern feminist drivel thinks about marriage in her mind, the very first thing (and quite often the only thing) she considers is sex. Having sex with just one person. 

But anyone who has ever been happily married knows what an empty question hers is. It’s a question that is, with all due respect, derived from a person who has never known true love. Only a woman who has never given herself fully to a man, who is devoted to her in return, would ask such a cheap question. You speak of marriage, the sacred union that is quite literally the building block of civilization and a moral society, as if it is nothing more than two bodies having intercourse with one another. The only kind of woman who would ask this question is one who has only experienced sex as nothing more than two people masturbating with one another’s bodies, which may be a crude definition of hookup culture, but it’s an accurate one.

There is not a single one-night stand in the world that can compare to the soul-altering love that is experienced and created with a husband who would lay down his life for you and is willing to build a family and a legacy with you.

Seeing so many women cheer on this question as if it is the main reason why they are not yet married is saddening, not even due to some failure of morality, but more so because it is reflective of women who have never experienced the life-changing love and devotion that comes with a healthy marriage. There is not a single one-night stand in the world that can compare to the soul-altering love that is experienced and created with a husband who would lay down his life for you and is willing to build a family and a legacy with you. And the young women (and men) who are turning down marriage because they think that chronically sleeping around will make them happier are in for a rude awakening one day. 

Free sex is easy. That’s one of the many reasons that it is fleeting. And it’s easy because it only requires you to access the physical part of your being, rather than your whole being, which is exactly what a marriage requires. You must give yourself wholly to one another. 

But aside from the more esoteric and spiritual argument for marriage, there are plenty of reasons why hookup culture is unhealthy for the body and mind. It may be common, but it is most certainly correlated with the mental health crisis that plagues our country and we will unfortunately see this unfold in more devastating ways as the years go on. 

Having multiple sexual partners has been consistently identified as a significant risk factor for acquiring sexually transmitted infections (STIs) such as HIV, syphilis, chlamydia, and human papillomavirus (HPV). Because HPV is a sexually transmitted virus, the likelihood of exposure increases proportionally with the number of sexual partners. In fact, one meta-analysis published in PubMed found that, even after controlling for HPV infection itself, individuals with a higher number of sexual partners exhibited a substantially greater risk of both non-malignant cervical disease and invasive cervical cancer, with odds ratios between 1.52 and 1.53.

Further evidence supports the connection between partner count and adverse health outcomes. A cross-sectional study of adults aged fifty and older in England revealed that those who reported ten or more lifetime sexual partners had significantly higher odds of having been diagnosed with cancer compared to those who had one or no sexual partners—approximately 1.91 times higher for women and 1.69 times higher for men. The same study found that women with ten or more partners were also more likely to report a limiting long-term illness, with an odds ratio of 1.64. Similarly, commentary in BMJ Sexual & Reproductive Health highlighted that a high number of sexual partners was linked to an increased risk of chronic disease overall, further emphasizing the long-term physical health implications of multiple sexual partnerships.

Those who reported ten or more lifetime sexual partners had significantly higher odds of having been diagnosed with cancer compared to those who had one or no sexual partners.

For men, comparable associations have been observed. Earlier research conducted in King County, Washington, on males aged forty to sixty-four found that those with thirty or more lifetime female sexual partners had more than double the risk of developing prostate cancer compared to men with fewer partners. Although the authors cautioned that confounding variables may influence these results, the data nonetheless underscores a consistent pattern: a greater number of sexual partners is associated with elevated risks for a range of physical health conditions, including infectious, chronic, and even malignant diseases.

Sadly, it doesn’t matter how many studies or how much data you present to people who have been heavily influenced by the mainstream culture. The narrative of “free sex is the best sex” has been injected into minds and hearts for so many years that it is nearly impossible to wedge it out of people’s morality. Perhaps the best course of action is to simply present better examples, rather than hurl numbers and words at single women caught up in hookup culture. We need to see more happily married couples in TV shows, movies, and even on social media. Influence is what changes hearts and minds more than anything else; nobody can deny that the woman who asked that question (along with the thousands who agreed with her) would be asking something very different if she had been fed a different narrative of marriage and sex for all her teen and adult life.

What if, in an alternate universe, the host of Call Her Daddy was a version of Alex Cooper who encouraged women to respect their bodies, their souls, and their sexuality rather than give it away for free to men who couldn’t care less about them?