How To Have Two Orgasms In One Night

Welcome to Come Undone, a sex column for wives. This article is for readers 18 and older. It contains explicit adult content for educational purposes only. Reader discretion advised. You’re riding him, hard, chasing that crescendo to the very top until the entire world winks out of existence and you shatter into a thousand tiny pieces. For a few seconds nothing else exists except for the two of you. And as you slowly come back to yourself, you feel it. The desperate craving isn’t gone. The hunger still consumes you. And you want to devour him, body and soul, until there’s nothing left. So you begin your ride again, grinding your hips against his until he arches his back. Until he rakes his fingers through his hair. Until he moans your name. You aren’t done yet, not even close. And this is about to be a night he’ll never forget. The Post-Orgasm Window The second orgasm isn’t something that should be forced, as doing so has the potential to lead to frustration and eventual disappointment. Capturing it is all about timing, and your body keeps its own schedule. So focus on pursuing it intuitively. If you orgasm the first time and everything still feels delicious, then by all means, continue. If you finish and let him take his turn but then start to feel that familiar build once more, let him know, or simply take back control. And if your orgasm leaves you feeling physically overstimulated but still wanting more, just slow down. Let him take a turn in doggy style or prone doggy to take the pressure off your clitoris, or settle into lotus position and reconnect using eye contact and deep, steady penetration. Women don’t experience the same refractory period men do. Women don’t experience the same refractory period men do . In fact, whether a distinct female refractory period exists at all remains a subject of debate . But perhaps that’s fitting, as the defining characteristic of the female body seems to be that it resists rigid definition altogether. Instead, it prefers to impart its wisdom in the moment, telling you what you need, and when you need it, to crest that second hill. The trick is learning to listen, because the answer is usually different every time. Positioning In addition to rarely occurring the exact same way twice, the second orgasm is one some women find more difficult to achieve as well. Because of this, controlling the current pace, position, and penetration depth is sometimes necessary, and the best position for that control is, of course, cowgirl. This is because not only does cowgirl allow you to follow your pleasure exactly when and how you need to, it provides the clitoral stimulation most women find necessary for their second O. Some winning strategies while in cowgirl are as follows: Rocking: Straddling his hips, keep him deep and gently grind front to back, side to side, or combine the two and circle your hips so that the base of his penis maintains contact around your clitoris. Angling: Imagine your pelvis is a bowl of water. Starting from an upright, neutral position, tilt your pelvis as if you’re spilling that water onto his belly, popping your butt back as you do. Your clitoris will grind against his abdomen as you glide up the length of his penis. Just before he slips out, squeeze your glutes and rock your pelvis in the opposite direction, plunging him deep inside you again. Repeat the movement in one smooth, sweeping motion. Shallowing: Best achieved in a variation of cowgirl. Straddle him first and then lie down so that you are chest to chest. From there, sweep yourself across him as described in angling. Not only will this keep pressure on your clitoris, it’ll keep the head of his penis near the entrance of your vagina, where the change in sensation and friction may be enough to send you over the edge. His Endurance While your husband’s orgasm doesn’t necessarily have to mean the end of your attempt, it certainly helps to delay it. That being said, the best time to tell him you want to double your pleasure is during foreplay. Not only will the idea of getting you off twice excite him, it allows him to get in the right headspace ahead of time. Because while it’s true that you can “interrupt” him between your first orgasm and his, just understand that you may be asking him to work twice as hard in an effort to dampen his arousal, and he might not always be successful. The best time to tell him you want to double your pleasure is during foreplay. Specific positions such as cowgirl may also help him last longer. This is because not only are you the one in control, he can make minor adjustments down below as needed in order to decrease his sensory experience. The adjustments won’t affect you too much, but as you get closer, you may notice that you need things exactly right in order to tip over the edge. And this is when the magic happens, because once you’re finally ready to let go, he can too. You need him deeper, he can finally give you his full length. You need him angled just right, he can shift into a position that sends the both of you tumbling, tearing, biting, and holding each other till there’s nothing left. Happy Hunting So rarely are we given opportunities in life where it’s fun to fail. Obviously everyone wants to orgasm twice; that is the goal. But even if you fail to meet it, you haven’t exactly lost. Not only did you just double the amount of time spent between the sheets , you now have an excuse to try again. Remember, the key to achieving a double orgasm is learning what you need, when you need it, and the best way to learn is through practice. Lucky you.