Finding The Right Kind Of Friends Is So Important

Last week, a couple of girlfriends and I got together for a socially-distanced meal. It was so nice to share dinner with them and catch up; by the end, we even had a heart-to-heart.

By Abby Roth2 min read
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We shared how nice it was to be around other women in the same stage of life with the same values, talking about life from a similar perspective. It became so clear to me as we were chatting that good female friendships are SO important.

So often, female friendships are shown in the media as gossip groups, simply recounting details of each other’s escapades and sharing margaritas. Think Sex and the City, for example. They’re toxic. But female friendships are so much more than that when you make friends who see the world from a similar viewpoint. All of a sudden, you can talk to your friends about your life, and they’ll offer you real insights that fit your lifestyle, not just snarky comments.

They Offer You a Support System

I was talking with one of my girlfriends the other day about trying to balance work and being a wife. I shared with her how I want to spend time on my career but also devote time to cooking dinner, cleaning our house, and just goofing off with my husband. She understood exactly what I was going through, and she was able to offer me some advice from her own life.

With good female friends, you have fruitful conversations, not just venting sessions. 

Making time for your female friends is so worth it because they can offer you a female perspective on the things that you’re going through, especially if you’re used to getting advice from a husband or boyfriend. The best female friendships are the ones that you can depend on to give you new insight into your life because they want the best for you. You’ll have fruitful conversations, not just venting sessions. And you’ll find support to bolster you when you’re feeling down.

You Can Work Through Things Together

Sometimes you’ll find that you and your girlfriends are going through the exact same thing at the exact same time. Of course, this isn’t always the case, but when it does happen, it’s such a blessing! You can discuss going through similar trials and tribulations and see those trials through the same lens.

When a friend understands what you’re going through because she’s going through it too, you’ll both feel less alone.

When a friend understands what you’re going through because she’s going through it herself, both of you will feel less alone. You’ll be able to share your experiences and grow together as you work through them. Ultimately, having a good friend by your side will give you strength as you navigate the world.

They’ll Encourage You To Embrace Your Femininity

Being a woman is so much fun. A good female friendship will encourage your femininity and womanhood! You’ll have a friend who loves embracing her feminine side as much as you do; you’ll have the perfect excuse to hang out and do some truly feminine things. Going shopping, getting your nails done, watching romantic comedies, all of those things really bring out your feminine side and allow you both to simply be girly.

You can talk about how to be loving, caring, kind, and strong — the most beautiful parts of being a woman.

Of course, less superficially, good female friendships encourage you to embrace the womanly part of yourself that you might not nurture. You can talk about how to be loving, caring, kind, and strong because those are all the most beautiful parts of being a woman. And a good girlfriend will want to encourage that in you and in herself.

Closing Thoughts

Good female friendships are the best thing in the world. Spending time with women who share your values and understand your perspective gives you strength when facing struggles. When you’re married or in a relationship, it’s important to keep up female friendships so that you are always getting that feminine viewpoint. Good female friendships help make you the best version of yourself.

Abby Roth is the creator of Classically Abby, a commentary, opera, beauty, and lifestyle brand dedicated to looking at the world from a classic perspective. Abby is an opera singer with three degrees in operatic performance from USC and Manhattan School of Music. You can find her website at and follow her on YouTube, Instagram, Twitter, and Pinterest at @ClassicallyAbby.