Burning Questions: How Can My Husband And I Enjoy Sex On My Period?
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READER'S QUESTION: "What's the best way for my husband and me to navigate and enjoy sex on my period, particularly without barrier methods? I'm a virgin and getting married in a month, and there's a chance I'll have my period on my wedding night—but I also anticipate it'll be a regular occurrence throughout our lives."
IVY'S ADVICE: First off, congrats! You're stepping into one of life's sexiest adventures, and nothing—not even Aunt Flo—should dampen your big night. Before diving into the details, let's quickly talk menstruation to set the stage for an amazing experience.
The Science of Period Sex
Your menstrual cycle involves hormone fluctuations that impact both your libido and comfort:
Days 1-2 (Heavy Flow): Typically, your estrogen and progesterone are at their lowest, leading to heavier bleeding and potentially stronger cramps. You might feel more sensitive or emotionally vulnerable during this phase.
Days 3-4 (Medium Flow): Hormone levels start to rise, easing cramps and increasing sensitivity and libido. This makes sex not only more comfortable but often highly pleasurable.
Days 5 and Onward (Light Flow): Bleeding lessens significantly, and your hormone levels continue to rise, enhancing your mood and sexual responsiveness. However, you may experience decreased natural lubrication, so keep some extra lube handy.
Now, let's get practical. Here's how to make period sex comfortable, intimate, and surprisingly hot:
Be Honest and Upfront
Period sex can initially seem intimidating or even off-putting for many men. Menstrual fluid can occasionally cause a slight burning sensation if he’s not wearing a condom due to its acidity. Openly discuss these aspects with confidence and care, helping him see past any initial hesitation.
Shower Sex: Mess-Free and Sexy
Shower sex not only eliminates mess but also offers warm, relaxing water to ease cramps and create an irresistibly steamy atmosphere. It’s a practical, sexy solution, especially for first-timers.
Prepare Your Space Wisely
Prefer the bed for your first time? Understandable! Prep by placing a dark towel or waterproof blanket on the bed. Keep wet wipes or warm washcloths nearby for a quick, comfortable cleanup afterward. Menstrual fluid aside, most people don’t talk about post-orgasm mess. If your husband cums inside of you, and if he has a generous amount of semen, it won’t all magically get sucked up into your vagina. Some will most likely spill out. This is why wet wipes are so useful, and I also recommend keeping him inside you after you climax for as long as you both are comfortable. It will help some of his cum get absorbed, and it will feel very intimate.
Opt for Comfortable Positions
Positions like missionary or spooning help manage messiness, keep you comfortable, and maximize intimacy. Spooning especially is perfect for relaxed, close encounters.
Embrace Nature’s Lube
Your period naturally provides additional lubrication, which is ideal if you’re nervous or new to penetration. But if dryness or sensitivity occurs, don't hesitate to use extra lube.
Foreplay Is Your Friend
Intense foreplay can help relax both of you, heightening arousal and easing any initial anxieties. Kissing, caressing, or manual stimulation can significantly enhance your overall experience.
Don't Skip Aftercare
Cuddling, gentle touches, or a quick shower afterward help you stay connected and comfortable. You can say something sexy like, “I love that you’re not afraid to get a little messy with me.”
Period sex can also feel a little naughty because of the perceived taboo. With the right mindset and framing, it can go from a turn off to a turn on. Your confidence will be contagious!
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