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Attachment Theory Can Explain Why You're Self-Sabotaging In Your Relationship

I’m washing the dinner dishes, mentally running through the list of everything else I need to do that evening, and it’s stressing me out. I look over at my husband at the table — not doing any of the things on my list.

By Paula Gallagher7 min read
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I feel a sudden surge of resentment, immediately followed by the thought, “I should just ask him to help me.” This seemingly harmless thought results in several moments of anxious, inner turmoil where I struggle to overcome resistance and fear to open my mouth and ask for help.