Ask Evie: I’m Not Sure Whether I Should End My Relationship, Even Though There’s No Spark

READER’S QUESTION: "Hello, I have been dating a girl for about four years (I’m a man). We met at the start of Covid on a dating app. The relationship quickly moved forward due to Covid lockdowns in my country. We met each other’s parents, and spent more time than normal together and with family. Because of this, I feel I was roped into a relationship I knew was not right for me. We align on our values and have similar interests, which has made staying in this relationship fairly easy. I have taken the path of least resistance, even though I know it is not the right thing to do. Even my friends realize she is not the one for me. I have tried to break up with her twice in the past year, and each time, she cries and says she will change and she knows our relationship is right and I am her person. I just don’t feel that way. Each time I try to break it off, we talk for around two hours, and she ends up lawyering her way to me saying okay, we can try again (she is a lawyer and is good at arguing). I can see a life with her, but just don’t think I will be as happy as I could be. Her family is great, and we all get along famously, which makes breaking up more difficult as I feel I am letting down multiple people. We even have a trip planned in a couple weeks with her family. A few weeks after, she is planning to move into my house. I think I need to break it off with her before she moves in to make things easier, but there is only a short window after the trip and before she moves in.