Ask Evie: How Do I Tell My Sister I Don’t Want To Be Her Therapist Anymore?

READER’S QUESTION: “I’m not sure how to tell my sister that I can’t be her therapist anymore. My sister is six years older than me, and I love her to bits. We message each other constantly about everything from random office quotes to asking for advice, and often we’ll have conversations on different apps simultaneously. My sister turned 30 this year, and for the past several years, she has been having a rough go. She has dropped out of college twice from different programs, she has been working at the small renovation company she’s currently employed at for about four years, and she doesn’t have many friends in the city she lives in. My issue with all these problems that she has is that she hasn’t done anything about it, and she keeps bringing up the same problems repeatedly to me. I’ve tried to tell her that she is in control of her life and that she is fully capable of making a change, but she hasn’t made one in four years.