College is a time to expand your mind, explore the world, and find yourself. In the few short years between 18 and 22, you will make the transition from teen to adult.
There is a widespread belief that you need to have certain experiences to make the most of this era, like wild parties and hookups. Likewise, if you’re in a relationship, you might feel the temptation to join in the fun of your single friends. But, there are several reasons why you’re better off having a relationship in college.
1. You will encourage each other to meet your goals.
In your early 20s, you’ll start to feel the pressure to establish yourself. If you’re focused on doing well in your classes, getting an internship, and building your resume, it might seem like dating would be a distraction. But having a relationship in college can be a great source of strength. You’ll have someone cheering you on through the hard times and believing in you when you lose faith in yourself. What’s more, you’ll learn how to balance responsibilities in the workplace and in your personal life.
You’ll have someone cheering you on through the hard times and believing in you when you lose faith in yourself.
2. You will have a "plus one" for every party.
Having a relationship in college doesn’t mean you have to miss out on tailgates and house parties. Going out is more fun when you can let loose with your significant other. And if you happen to have a drink too many, you’ll always have someone to get you McDonald’s and hold your hair back while you throw up.
3. You’ll have lots of free time.
In high school, you were bound by parents, curfews, and after-school commitments. Later in life, balancing work and social life leaves little time for dating. College is the sweet spot where you have tons of free time to spend with your sweetie. You’ll have days on end to hang out and really get to know each other.
4. You’ll always have a travel buddy.
Most people want to travel in their early 20s. With a group of friends, it can seem impossible to make travel plans. Everyone is strapped for cash, has different schedules, and can’t decide on a destination. It’s tempting to jet off on your own, but for women, it’s not always safe. Your boyfriend can share fun new experiences with you, and you can feel safe traveling in exotic lands.
Your partner can share fun new experiences with you, and you can feel safe traveling in exotic lands.
5. You’ll avoid hookup culture.
You might envy your single friends who always have a juicy new story about a guy they met. Being in a committed relationship, you’ll miss out on the excitement of a new crush. But it also means missing out on heartbreak, STDs, and awkward mornings after. You’ll have the relief of knowing you have stability and love.
6. Being broke together can be fun.
Later in your 20s, you’ll have more money for nice dates. Being a college student on a budget forces you to think outside of the box a little. You can have sweet times together playing games, enjoying outdoor activities, cooking together, and attending free concerts. It’s free, and the memories will last forever.
Being a college student on a budget forces you to think outside of the box a little.
7. Relationships help you grow as a person.
Many choose to stay single in college for the sake of independence. They might believe that having a relationship in college holds you back. But being attached doesn’t have to hinder personal development. A relationship can be a great opportunity to grow as a person. While there’s nothing wrong with putting yourself first, learning to compromise is an essential skill. It helps to have someone keep you accountable and point out shortcomings that you might overlook.
In our modern culture, we're bombarded with messages that your 20s are about being selfish and hedonistic. In college, the walk of shame is no longer shameful. But opting out of the stereotypical college experience doesn’t mean you can’t have just as much fun. If you’re spoken for, there’s no need to give up your beau for the sake of freedom. And if you’re single, don’t be afraid to take a chance on finding love.