With careers, kids, running a home, and everything in between, some weeks are just so busy that we tend to put sex at the bottom of the priority list.
Our sex drives are always changing depending on our moods. Sometimes we feel happy, and sometimes we're downright stressed, which all has an impact on our sex life.
1. Reduce Stress
Studies show that chronic stress can produce too much of the hormone cortisol, which can lower your libido. A good way to combat stress is by exercising. Hit the gym or do yoga to stretch away the stress and to increase your libido.
2. Increase Physical Touch
Touching your husband, such as hugging, holding each other's hand or stroking his back creates connection and intimacy, which can lead to desire in the bedroom.
3. Eliminate Distractions
Turn off all distractions at night like the TV or social media and focus on connecting. Studies show that when women spend time connecting and talking with each other, we produce oxytocin, which is the hormone that facilitates trust, bonding, and a sense of sexual arousal.
4. Schedule it (Yes, Really)
Scheduling in sex may sound off-putting and unromantic, but with children and busy schedules, it can easily slip our minds. Try scheduling it at random times and in different rooms in the house to keep it interesting.
5. Don't Wait, Initiate
Initiate sex by either expressing how you feel or taking action. Men can't read minds, and they respond better to our feelings rather than being ordered to do something. Simply saying "I'm feeling horny" with a cheeky grin on your face is all he needs to know.
He may not respond immediately, but you've given him the signal and planted the seed in his mind. Now all you have to do is nonchalantly wait for him to make his move, or if you're feeling bold, you can take charge and seduce him. Initiating sex can be an exhilarating confidence boost, and he's not going to complain!