After a certain point in every relationship, it’s easy enough to tell your guy, “I love you,” but we often forget that we can also show our significant other that we love them. Acting out our love, rather than simply declaring it with words, will help nurture our relationship – increasing trust, devotion, and friendship, and leading to deeper bonds and a happier couple overall.
This sounds fine and dandy, but many of us aren’t well-versed in the art of showing our love instead of telling it. How do we even go about doing such a thing?
Here are five simple yet powerful ways you can express your love without words:
1. Ask him how his day was, and really listen.
One of the most loving things we can do for our other half is be their most attentive listener – whether that entails hearing all about their work issues, family drama, or fights with friends. In a romantic relationship, the goal is to be the person our partner can always vent to, ponder with, and express their deepest feelings to. But rather than just listening, we should strive to ask questions that show we’re listening, inviting our significant other to feel welcome and able to continue sharing their thoughts, feelings, and struggles.
One of the most loving things we can do for our other half is be their most attentive listener.
2. Surprise him by making his favorite meal.
This stereotypical saying is somewhat true: the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. While that can have bad connotations, it doesn’t mean we should completely shy away from ever treating him to a home-cooked meal, especially a meal that has a special place in his heart. Making his all-time favorite meal for our guy is a sweet way of showing affection, letting him know he’s taken care of, and is a nice excuse to have a little date night at home. Set the table with romantic candles, turn on soft music, and watch his face light up when he hears what’s for dinner.
3. Support his dreams.
My husband is an actor, author, and filmmaker. This means his “workday” doesn’t look like a normal 9-5, we don’t have a set income every year, and there’s a lack of regularity in his schedule. While not knowing exactly what each month holds for us can be uncomfortable, seeing him live out his lifelong dreams is more fulfilling for me than comfort. Maybe your partner is an artist like mine – or maybe they have a passion for helping people (doctors), molding our younger generations (teachers), or defending the innocent (lawyers). Whatever their passion, supporting them through every step on their chosen path is a gift worth giving them.
Whatever their passion, supporting them through every step on their chosen path is a gift worth giving them.
4. Give him a back scratch.
There’s nothing quite like a good, long back scratch after a terribly hectic day at work. Silly as it may sound, performing an act of service from which you reap no benefits – like scratching someone’s back or giving them a massage – has been proven to be a simple way to form bonds and build trust, two things the most successful romantic relationships are built on. We strive to shower our significant other with care, so why not start with something as easy as a back scratch?
5. Learn to love what he loves.
When we love someone, we choose to see the value in what they find valuable. By doing this, we not only expand our own horizons, but we also create new ways to connect with our significant other. This doesn’t mean we’re obligated to love video games, Star Wars, or Superman the same way our guy does. What it does mean, however, is that we can grow to love something we never would have by ourselves because it provides our significant other with happiness, fulfillment, and wonder.
When we love someone, we choose to see the value in what they find valuable.
Learning how to be a good partner for someone you love is a noble task that requires self-awareness, growth, and perseverance. I hope this list was helpful to you on your quest to become a more loving partner.