They say the honeymoon phase lasts around 2-3 years. Sex is fun and exciting in the beginning, but how do you keep things spicy in the bedroom after years together and real-life kicks in?
Remember how fun sex was in the beginning? First, it was a couple of times a day trying all kinds of positions, then it slowed down to a few times a week, and now it’s about once a week. And it is usually the same time and the same position -- a quickie on Saturday morning under the quilt, missionary position. How do you keep the spark alive once the honeymoon phase is over? Because marriage is like, you know, forever. How do you keep it fun and exciting, so it doesn’t become a boring routine? The answer is, we need to make an effort. We need to take responsibility for our sex lives and motivate ourselves.
She comes first
There are many fun ways you can seduce your husband, but like anything, you can’t pour from an empty cup. You want to make sure you feel good about yourself first. You won’t want to initiate anything if you are feeling gross or stressed, so it’s important to practice some self-care to get you in the mood, and feeling confident and sexy.
You won’t want to initiate anything if you are feeling gross or stressed.
For example, indulging in a hot bath with essential oils, candles and music will help you to relax. Or beauty prep - dressing in gorgeous lingerie makes you feel beautiful.
Sex starts in the mind, so texting your hubby flirty messages throughout the day will get his pulse racing! Get creative and take it as far as you want. For example, you could start by sending him a sexy selfie and follow-up with the following text messages:
“Babe, I have a problem. I had a naughty dream about us having sex last night. Now I can’t concentrate, and I feel all frustrated...”
“I’m wearing your favorite outfit: suspenders and stockings 😉”
“Miss you. Can’t wait for you to get home. Xxx”
2. Naughty love notes
Similar to texting you could leave spicy post-it notes a.k.a love notes around the house to seduce him.
Place: The remote control. Message: “You know what else needs turning on in the bedroom? Your wife. Xx”
Place: Inside his work bag or laptop. Message: “Thinking about you. Lovely, dirty thoughts. Xxx”
Place: Wine rack or wine bottle. Message: “Your lips are like wine and I want to get drunk ❤️”
3. Read a book in bed, naked
We all know men are visual creatures. The next time you’re reading your favorite book in bed, why not read naked wearing nothing but your favorite perfume? This will get him aroused like nothing else!
4. Wearing only an apron
They say the quickest way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Turn up the heat a few notches by cooking his favorite meal wearing just an apron. Steak ‘n beer plus you for dessert? #DomesticGoddess
5. Schedule steamy showers
Schedule in steamy showers together. Being naked and washing each other's bodies is fun, sexy, creates intimacy, and stimulates the production of endorphins i.e., happy hormones. Experiment with new positions and use the mirror for extra effect!